What do I need if I plan on leaving?
Important Items to Take When You Leave
Children’s Birth Certificates
Social Security Cards
Money and/or credit cards (in your name)
Checking and/or savings account books
Lease, rental agreement and house deed
Car registration and insurance papers
Health and life insurance papers
Medical records for you and your children
Work permits/Green Card/Visa
Divorce and custody papers
House and car keys
Pictures and sentimental items
Change of clothes for you and your children
What steps should I take to stay safe?
Safety During an Explosive Incident
A.If you feel an argument may be about to occur, try to move to a place that has one or more exits. Try to avoid being in a bathroom, kitchen or room that may contain weapons.
B.Practice exiting your home safely. Identify which doors, windows, elevator, or stairwell to use.
C.Pack a bag, and leave it at a friend’s or relative’s house.
D.Identify one or more neighbors you can tell about the violence, and ask them to call the police if they hear a disturbance coming from your home.
E.Develop an age–appropriate safety plan with your children.
F.Devise a code word to use with your children, family, friends and neighbors when you need someone to call the police.
G.Decide and plan where you will go if you ever have to leave home.
H.Trust your instincts and your judgment. In some dangerous situations, you may chose to give the abuser what he/she wants to calm him/her down. Only you can decide the best way to protect yourself and your children in each situation.
How do I talk to a victim of domestic violence?
Perhaps in the past you have felt that you should not get involved in a private family matter, or that the violence can't really be that bad. "She must be doing something to provoke the violence, I know him-I really don't think he could hurt anyone."
Domestic violence is not a family matter. It is a CRIME with serious repercussions for your friend, her children, and the entire community. It results in more injuries that require medical attention than rape, auto accidents and muggings combined. A victim of battering is never to blame for another person's choice to use violence against her. Many abusers are not violent in other relationships and can even be charming in social situations.
What can you do?
- Listen to them. Believe them.
- Assure them that it is not their fault.
- Do not pass judgment on them or the person that hurt them.
- Tell them about support services that are available.
- Ask if they are safe right now.
- If they are in immediate danger, call 911.
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